Another does it, or: “Here you will be helped” (@Poth) !?!?

Another does it, or: “Here you will be helped” (@Poth) !?!?

The joy is limited these days. Do you feel the same? What tools do you use to remain open, kind, and compassionate? How do you manage to do justice to the complexity of knowledge, attitudes and emotions?

On the one hand, I experience irritating things on platforms, which I mostly appreciate because I can follow the developments of connected people and their projects and draw from a multitude of suggestions. For a good year and a half, these have degenerated into advertising and esoteric windows: Rapid “healing” is promised by booking seminars, coaching, software, advice, etc. So: “Deus ex machina”: “someone else does it”.

Does it work? Barely.

On the other hand, in my consulting environment, I experience the most contradictory perceptions between powerlessness and happiness:

Those who speak of the natural slowdown in the world of work and a return to the longed-for stress relief and those who suffer precisely from this: a lack of services, answers, support and, as some of my coachees say, a lack of employee motivation to contribute to solutions.

Oh, and it’s not just a professional aspect. Many parents know about this.

It’s like hauling a cart full of weary, surrendering people. And that should change after a short training session, through software, through “change”?

The solution lies in the first step and this is up to us!

Another advertising text helps out: “It’s easy!” – and it’s up to us. I hear the answer of many: “Why always me?” Well: You can also decide to join the crowd of resigned Giver-up, allower, victim-feeler.

Or you increase the opportunity to learn, develop, inspire and take people with you on your journey.

Okay: it is not easy to move yourself and others.

How can it succeed?

Ask unorthodox, friendly provocative questions, break existing comfort zone patterns. And pick up the people who expect answers and instructions without pointing out solutions. Here is a selection:

What are we talking about now?

Do we all have an understanding of the meaning, the definition of what we are talking about?

What could be a good solution? And please: leave the resolution to set up a strategy for the next few years – the pandemic and the subsequent restructuring will screw up the implementation. Stick to the agreed vision of the future and work your way towards it with your employees – in manageable, measurable, systemically clear steps. “Sprint” is what the Scrum community calls it.

Which resources, experiences, attitudes, means are available, which ones are needed?

Where does development start?

And not to forget this one: What has been successful so far, what has been successfully prevented, what has been promoted?

What do you need to let go of on the journey?

The optimal result is a new clarity without overlooking helpful minds and different opinions at the same time.

For now, everyone is right from their perspective. With a little openness, an approximation of the same can succeed.

Our team and I wish you success!


Literature: Watzlawick, P./Beavin, J./Jackson D. (2007) Human communication, 11th edition, Bern, Huber

Luhmann, N: Social Systems. outline of a general theory. Surkamp 1987