I care that you care

I’m an avowed layman. Not even an “amateur” (derived from Latin for “lover”) – as far as epidemology or virology is concerned. What about you?

How do you deal with all this not knowing?

Aggressive and fearful – Marshall B Rosenberg would emphatically attribute this to the desire for security, for being understood, for much of the unfulfilled.

Selfish and egomaniacal – when no one else is paying attention to you or because you are not one of those at risk, because you have to work for others and because everyone else is generally so much better off than you?

Or reflects compassionately and carefully (self-)caring?

I found a text on posture in Nora Batson and I thank my teacher and friend Matthias Varga von Kibed for transfering to me:

„I don’t care if that mask you wear is really going to keep me from getting the virus. I care that you care. The wearing, and not wearing of protective bandanas, gloves, or whatever… is a message. You know that. I know that. What sort of a world is it that day to day life takes place within?

But no. Normal is beckoning. Normal is urgent. Normal is the survival of billions of people. Normal is a reboot of the inter-systemic death machine that got us here in the first place.

Normal is a double bind. Go back to normal and we all end up in more global catastrophes, but if we do not go back to normal, it is a global catastrophe. And to say this in writing… is to trigger a thousand blades of snickersnack comments to slice the writer into coleslaw.

“That things ‘just go on’ is the catastrophe.” — Walter Benjamin

This is the dystopia. Its counterpart is the vitality of caring and tending to each relationship in each moment. In the supermarket, in the living room, in the social media space.

It is also a small hint of a path.

It is not what is said, or unsaid, but the relationships in which the saying is taking place that give the meaning.“

From: Nora Bateson „My Health Is Not My Own“

Let’s make a decision. Now. And remember: we design.

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